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Satisfying Your Troubled Christian Marriage Page Content Author: Kenneth G. Dockins  As an ethical Christian life coach and author, I received permission to print parts of this article from a formerly troubled Christian marriage couple who was experiencing some temporary setbacks. We agreed to print this writing in the hopes that other Christian marriage couples can either avoid or at least mend the damage caused by trouble spots in their daily dealings with each other, especially concerning the building, maintenance, or nurturing of Godly principles that can help escalate the joys of Christian marriage intimacy.
[One spouse reports the following details:]
My troubled Christian marriage needs help. Recently, my spouse and I have had differences about the amount of time we can afford to spend together, simply cuddling, hugging, and kissing like we used to do years before we ever got married.
Our third year anniversary is soon approaching - this only seems to add to the emotional sting that we presently experience. Of course, in past years we always kept our anniversary as a loving reminder of all the good things we found in each other. Knowing that we may be entering our next special anniversary plagued with unsolved difficulties only makes our current scenario more challenging, confusing, and perplexing.
Now, I know you might be thinking that a troubled Christian marriage couple can always easily turn to God for direct answers and solutions. And, perhaps we should not even be having such problems. But, we are simply human beings, too.
Ironically, we read our bibles, and still attend services regularly. So, actually, it is even surprising to us that our romantic involvement appears to be dwindling in spite of all our Christian efforts. Anyway, the point is now, that we need help, before things get any worse (neither of us wants that) and we are seeking this assistance from various reliable Christian sources.
Earlier I discovered this website and learned about your Christian news resources that can help save Christian marriage relationships or provide some pertinent assistance. For some reason, I get a good feeling from this site and trust that the words I am reading here do indeed come from a caring and sincere source.
Perhaps I will read the ebook for troubled Christian marriages that you have listed here. But, also, do you have any other advice about the current situation I am describing in this writing?
[And to the above, we responded in the following ways:]
Although your troubled Christian marriage may not currently meet God’s expectations, there is comfort in the Godly words that Psalms provide. But, here is one question for the two of you… Is it possible for both of you to sit down, just once again... and sip together on the waters of these nourishing and loving words which Psalms extend to you? Passages like this one may bring you some clarity and comfort, too...
“... Rend your hearts not your garments... Return to the Lord your God, For He is gracious and compassionate, Slow to anger and abounding in love... He will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten...”
Can you truly acknowledge the fact that even your troubled Christian marriage is originally a valid one? Upon such a rock, faith can cause your romance to live again. It is our inward dignity, sacredness, and permanence of marital intent... which can make the difference between mutual satisfaction or misguided separation.
Attempt not to let setbacks bog you down or keep you from nurturing the fullness of your original love toward each other.
This is easier said than done, of course. However, you are not alone in this because nearly all believers face setbacks plus some rough times occasionally. Yet, God will protect us from utter failure when we willingly submit to that higher knowledge He holds for us.
Simply put, allow God to grow your again inside of your relationship.
The Best SOLUTION to Troubled Christian Marriage is... to recall that marriage is your mutual union that remains joined together by the spirit mind heart and body of sensitivity and, above all, unconditional LOVE.
Always give thanks to God for your spouse. Intentionally cherish and seek out additional moments of pleasure with your spouse. This can work wonders. As more Psalms remind us... "the righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God."
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For you to know, this couple recently advises us that they managed to discuss and uncover the most basic and underlying reasons for their unexpected challenge3s or temporary setbacks. Just like most normal couples who might suddenly find themselves encountering a troubled Christian marriage... fixing the problems of self PLUS seeking ways to give joy to that other person in your life… this combination appears to be the most helpful approach to putting your romantic friendship back on the right track.
Surely, this path requires Godly direction. However, there is one additional missing ingredient that even some Christian marital counselors fail to sufficiently address. This is the element of purposeful self-direction - a sensitive human emotional area in which you yourself must re-establish, reconsider, review, and revamp your INTENTIONAL decision to honor and love one another through good times and bad alike.
Get your copy of this inspiring e-book, "Save Your Christian Marriage," and uncover highly focused,God centered, romantic tips that are helping Christian marriages worldwide.
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